Troubles with friends? Well.. maybe it is time for you to be honest with yourself, a time to look at the friendship and ask, “Why am I still friends with this person?”
If the answer won’t be because he/she give you support, love, motivation, inspiration, encouragement, laughter, or any other POSITIVE emotions or outcomes, then you HAVE TO ask yourself this: “How do I feel after I hang out with this person?”
If you feel drained, doubtful, depressed, bad about yourself, frustrated, scared, angry, or in any other way NEGATIVE after most of your meetings? Do you wish for seeing this person at all or you just answer to her/his calls? When this person calls, do you avoid it? If you’ve answered yes, it’s time to reassess the reason that you’re keeping this friendship alive.
Most of us understand how toxic it can be to interact with negative people. Their dreary outlook on life can drag us down. And their pessimistic attitudes can, too often, discourage us from giving our best or taking the necessary steps to improve our future success.
Negative people can pull us into their toxic cycle of pessimistic existence by disrupting our lives and creating negative thoughts within us.
How to deal with them effectively, why don’t you try those:
1. Define boundaries- decide how much you are going to allow others to influence you. The most effective way to eliminate as much pessimism as possible is by simply limiting the parts of your life to which negative people have access. Keep your sanity and create boundaries to protect yourself. You mother in law is killing you- well, set boundaries- meet with her only once a month not every week!
2. Surround yourself with warmth- find people that make you happy, that make you simple, even for a moment only. After meeting with those people you will feel recharged. Being bombarded by a constant stream of negativity can take a toll on even the most easy going person, so protect yourself from that potential burnout by adding quality time with those who uplift your spirits and encourage you to do great things.
3. Find positivity within yourself- the most successful tactic of all may be finding positivity within yourself. Try not to let the negative words or actions of others get to you.